Turning It Around: Detox Recipe 21 of 21May 21, 2011
Welcome to 21 Days of Detoxing! Whether you are one of our amazingly motivated participants or just interested in eating clean, whole, real food – boy do I have some recipes for you! From now ’til May 21st I’ll be featuring a delicious detox-friendly recipe each day. (And if you want to get in on the detox magic I have a Do It Yourself version available – right here.)
Throughout our 21 days, I’ve tried to encourage the group to focus on the positive. In their lives, in their food choices, whatever. Just choosing positivity is the point.
It detoxes us from negative thoughts, and that’s HUGE.
Of course, this all comes during some of the most insane days of my life. Seriously! In the past 21 days I’ve dealt with sleepless nights, a baby who can’t and then won’t eat, my milk drying up, my milk coming back, trips to multiple doctors, therapists and lactation consultants, fussy spells that test my sanity, having to call my mom from out of town to come help me survive it all, and the inevitable marital discord that a new baby can create.
Yes. That’s what I’m trying to say. Despite whatever shit is going down in your life, how can you frame it in a positive way? This is important work. This has been my work. You can eat kale and quinoa all day, but if your mind is constantly repeating the negative you are simply never going to feel your best.
Today’s recipe…well it may be the most important one yet.
Recipe for Turning It Around
1 of the following statements, completed with your words:
“I hate it when _______________”
“I never want to feel ________________ again”
Now take your completed sentence and change it:
“I like it (or can tolerate) when ___________________”
“I look forward to feeling ______________ again”
Finally, come up with 3 ways that the turned around statement is true.
Think it’s impossible? It’s not, you just have to be willing and a bit creative. For instance:
“I never want to feel helpless and like a bad mother again.”
“I look forward to feeling helpless and like a bad mother again”
Hmmph. Ok, 3 reasons why that sentence is true:
1. It means I’ll be learning something new about parenting
2. It will lead me to seek and find new support people in my life
3. It will teach me how to be ok with not knowing it all or being perfect
Ahh, I feel better already. The point is not to negate or dismiss the bad feeling, but rather to shed some perspective on the other side of the issue and help balance your reaction.
“I hate it when my husband and I argue.”
“I like or can tolerate when my husband and I argue”
1. We are always growing and changing and navigating new waters together.
2. I sometimes get too stuck in my own view.
3. We have opinions and personalities, and that’s surely better than having neither!
Now you try!
Today’s recipe is based on Byron Katie’s The Work.
**It’s been a great 21 days! Thanks for joining us. See all the 21 Days of Detox recipes (I promise the rest are food) by clicking here.**