You know what you need to do. Now do it.March 6, 2013
You know that thing that has been churning in the back of your mind for some time now?
The one you’ve given a sidelong glance to, then halfheartedly pat on the head and murmured “there, there, maybe later.” The thing you maybe don’t want to have to deal with, don’t want to believe that you actually believe.
You know what I’m talking about. And if you don’t, stop. Think.
What do you know you need to do, eventually someday perhaps maybe sorta definitely scary ok no ok no forget it shit shit shit it’s still there?
Conjure it up out of the depths of your mind and heart. We’re so good at stuffing it down there. Write it down if you have to – just to give it a form you can hold on to.
I need to stop overspending.
I need to break up with so-and-so.
I need to break my addiction to sugar.
I need to have more sex.
I need to eat real meals instead of grazing on crap.
I need to cancel a big event.
I need to leave my job.
They are scary thoughts. Shameful. Overwhelming. And the funny thing is they don’t go away.
This past weekend was a marvelous time for me to process some of my own stuffed-away tough thoughts. I found myself on a 5 hour bus ride to New York, without wifi, without even an outlet to recharge my phone. 5 hours of no connection, I took out my pen and paper and wrote.
Really not a terrible idea, even if you aren’t stuck on a smelly bus.
As I wrote, my Type A mind wrapped its head around some intangibles. How can I do this? How can I let go of that? How can I make this work for me?
And that’s really the biggest question to ask, when confronted with thoughts we’d rather not deal with: How can I make this situation work for ME? Rather than hide from it or pretend or play along.
It’s ok to leave that job, that career. It’s ok to start over in the relationship department. It’s ok to let go of projects and dream a different dream. If it’s been weighing on your mind for some time, now is the time to confront it. Your body doesn’t lie. If your gut is whispering to your brain, it means it. Listen now, or listen later, it’s up to you.
Change doesn’t come overnight. But it comes. Oh, does it ever. (Anyone remember when I was writing these blog posts from my full time job in advertising??)
You know what you need to do. Acknowledge it. You’ve known all along, somewhere in your gut.
After my weekend in New York at the IIN conference I feel as if the ceiling on my business just floated up about 100 miles. I’ve let go of some commitments and am planning to take on new things. And I’m grateful for those 5 hours to sit down, shut up, disconnect from status updates and instead have a conversation with myself.
If you need some help doing this in your own life, I highly recommend the Megabus from DC to NYC. Book your tickets now.